Ep. 98: Co-Mindfulness Explained with Sam LeBlond and Reilly Koch- Eldest Sons of Doro Bush Koch and Tricia Reilly Koch
In this special edition of Health Gig, we are joined by Sam LeBlond and Reilly Koch! Sam is Doro’s son and also hosts his own podcast “All the Best,” which honors the life and legacy of his grandparents (and Doro’s parents) George H. W. Bush and Barbara Bush. Reilly Koch, Tricia’s son, is the Senior Manager of Channel and Customer Experience Consulting at Marriott International. Today, the boys interview their moms to break down exactly what Co-Mindfulness is, how it came to be, and how Doro and Tricia live it in their everyday lives. This special episode brings together meaningful relationships, which is at the heart of Co-Mindfulness and the Co-Mindfulness Project. To learn more about Co-Mindfulness, visit bbrconsulting.us and check out our 7 week masters course or sign up for the 2020 Co-Mindfulness Summit.
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Show Notes
[4:22] But one of the things we learned, he taught us that if you want to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to make others happy, practice compassion. And the idea was we can all work on ourselves and practice being present. But it isn't until we practice bringing our attention and compassion to our relationships that we can really experience more joy and love in our lives.
[5:32] Giving our full attention, leading with curiosity, not judgment, letting go of expectations, committing to the truth, breathing to avoid reacting, holding our integrity and connecting with love. These are all seven ways that we can improve our relationships.
[7:10] If I keep responding to you with my thoughts of who you should be or what you should be doing, that I'm very, very far away from being with you and loving you in the present moment. Co-Mindfulness is the practice of staying fully in the present moment with someone else and coming to our relationships from a place of love and compassion.
[7:59] What this Co-Mindfulness and letting go of expectations helps us do is to come at this relationship with fresh eyes and therefore we're open to what's actually there.
[9:43] The first tenant or the first one of deep listening is making the conscious decision to allow the other person to speak first and not to interrupt them while they're talking and to ask open ended questions to draw them out.
[10:48] Really listen not only with your ears, but also with your heart.
[12:37] Compassion is what's important, but you don't have to make other people happy.
[13:32] We always say every time you see a person, they're an opportunity to learn more about yourself and they're an opportunity to practice mindfulness and they're an opportunity to live a little longer, to live a little happier, because that's what Co-Mindfulness is all about.
[15:16] In fact, the recent studies are saying that loneliness, for example, is equivalent to smoking 15 cigarettes a day. That loneliness kills faster than even someone who's been obese for most of their life, it will cause more deaths. The idea is that we can control our destiny and we can control it through relationships.
[15:56] We're social beings and we need to be with people and we need to be connected. And when we're not is when we get into a lot of trouble physically and mentally.
[20:58] It's like our attention is being used for companies to make money. And so our attention and peace of mind are literally under siege. And we need to start becoming much more conscious about where and how we give our attention, because more than any other material object, our attention has the power to heal others by making them feel seen and understood and our attention can bridge the differences that divide us.
[26:40] If there was ever a time to not judge how people are dealing with the pandemic and how things are going in their own homes, it's now. If there ever was a time to commit to the truth, to be honest about what's going on, it's now and on and on.
[31:50] A lot of co-mindfulness is just being there unconditionally for the other person.
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“We always say every time you see a person, they're an opportunity to learn more about yourself and they're an opportunity to practice mindfulness and they're an opportunity to live a little longer, to live a little happier, because that's what Co-Mindfulness is all about.” - Tricia Reilly Koch
“If there was ever a time to not judge how people are dealing with the pandemic and how things are going in their own homes, it's now. If there ever was a time to commit to the truth, to be honest about what's going on, it's now.” - Doro Bush Koch
“We need to start becoming much more conscious about where and how we give our attention, because more than any other material object, our attention has the power to heal others by making them feel seen and understood and our attention can bridge the differences that divide us.” - Tricia Reilly Koch
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